I do not favor homosexual marriage because I believe the Bible is clear about the immorality of homosexual behavior but I am not surprised or disappointed by this week’s ruling by the Supreme Court. Given the situation in modern America, the Court did what common sense would require of it.
The Evangelical church lost this battle long before matters came to the court. We did so in two ways.
First, we stood by in silence while our society redefined marriage to being the union of two people in love. Given that definition, there is no possible argument against homosexual marriage. By the time we began to protest that there was more to marriage than romance, it was too late. The silliness of our entertainment industries and their exaltation of romance proved more powerful than any effort by the Christians to demonstrate biblical marriage as commitment and family. The divorce rates in the church weakened any message we had. We have only ourselves to blame.
Just as importantly, because we refused to treat homosexuals with love and respect, we forced them to become demand justice and freedom to do whatever they felt like. We talked lots about loving the sinner but hating the sin. In fact, we showed every sign of condemning the sinners, forgetting that we ourselves were part of God’s kingdom only by the sheer, miraculous grace of God.
A child who accepts a gift of candy and then refuses to share it is an irritation to us. We who claim to dwell in the grace of God — but want to hoard it for ourselves and others just like us — are a terrible affront to God. For forcing the homosexual community to demand a freedom and dignity which it defined for itself, we have only ourselves to blame.
So what should we do now? We still owe our fellow humans respect and dignity, even when we disagree with them. If homosexual marriage is not blessed by God, it will pass and society will go through another wave of conservatism. But we are not God’s enforcers, trying to make others live by standards they reject.
We are not God’s enforcers. . .Why is that such a hard lesson to learn?